You messed up. Yes, you really did. You probably don’t even realize it yet, and you probably won’t until it’s way too late. You had a wonderful opportunity in front of you and you let it walk away because you’re actually a pretty terrible person despite what people say about you. Still don’t believe me? Here are a few reasons to prove you screwed up…
4. You Didn’t Think Enough of Yourself
Regardless of what you actually think, you’re a pretty great person. You’re beautiful. You’re smart. You’re funny. You’re the total package. And yet because some dickhead(s) in your past tore you down, you’ve allowed that negative treatment to impact how you view everyone else who comes into your life. And if you choose to live your life that way, you’ll always be alone because no one, no matter how good of a person they are, will allow you to treat them with anything less than the love and respect they deserve. So have fun with all your cats.
What you need to realize is that there will be people in your life who are actually nice. There will be people who actually have the best intentions and aren’t out to take advantage of you. And guess what? It’s okay for you to be treated well. One of the hardest things to overcome in life is the ability to open yourself back up after you’ve been let down. But if you’re always closed off to the world, you’ll never get to where you want to be.
3. You Pushed People Away
Remember how I said you were a pretty great person? That should be obvious by the number of people who want to spend time with you and get to know you. But as your circumstances change and you find yourself in new environments, it’s difficult for you to accept these new people. Even more, it just feels easier for you to constantly keep them at a distance so you don’t have to entertain the idea that you might be susceptible to feeling things again.
So when you feel like someone has gotten too close, you inexplicably push them away. You knew it was wrong. You knew you were stringing them along and giving them false hope. In the end, you did to them what others have done to you. So rather than allowing someone to be good to you, what did you do?
2. You Returned to Your Own Self Destructive Habits
Whatever it is you do, whether it’s drugs, alcohol, returning to people you know are bad for your mental and physical well-being, you always go back. You know it’s not what you should do, but you do it anyway because A) it’s comfortable and B) you feel resigned to living that life.
But you don’t have to. If you’re not happy with any aspect of your life, you’re free to make changes. You don’t have to keep the same group of “friends” just because you grew up together. You don’t have to keep doing the same things to yourself because that’s how it’s always been. If you stopped for 2 seconds to look at the people around you who really like you and want to be around you, you’d see that the happiness you’ve been looking for was in front of you the whole time.
1. You’re Stubborn
But you won’t do any of that, will you? You’re too comfortable where you are. Drugs are fun. The people who constantly remind you of the worst times in your life and tear you down still make you smile from time to time…mainly when you’re drunk and vulnerable.
At the end of the day, you’ll only change when you hit rock bottom. The problem is that you might not ever get there because the best people in your life are always going to be there to catch you before you get there. So you’ll constantly be stuck in limbo, going between mild happiness and complete depression. But hey, it’s not like you’re constantly struggling, right? So it’s not like things really need to change.